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Staying Raw in Social Situations


Socialising whilst adopting a new way of eating can be quite daunting, and previous to being high raw, I’d even opted to NOT socialise whilst bedding down a new diet fad or whilst doing a detox. I remember one time, when I was still a flight attendant,deciding to pick up more flights for a month as I was giving myself a 30 day (month) ban of anything social, just so I could focus on my eating and exercising without having to have the anxiety of peer pressure to drink or eat things I just didn’t want to.

However this was before I went raw, and possibly had an unhealthy association with diets or ‘detoxes’ that would only be for a period of time, and what I found with RAW was that it was something that was going to last me over time and become a habit, and not just last for a short timeframe.

I promise you, there are ways you can still care for your health without dropping out of the social scene.

Here are some tips I’ve employed over the years to stick on track:

  • Have a treat day and coincide it with your outting: the whole idea of having a treat day is to ensure you don’t have a feeling of deprivation and resent the new way of eating. Treats for me since having gone raw have changed quite significantly and even if they are still considered junk food, as long as I aim to stick to vegan foods, even if cooked, then I am not too stressed out
  • Load up: fill up on a green smoothie, cooked or raw soup of salad monster before heading to a party. This will curb your appetite and ensure you are able to stop at just one or two nibblies when you get to the party. Don’t arrive hungry
  • Pack your own smoothie! I’ve done this loads, and before you say ‘how embarrassing’ basically it’s not really a big deal at a party. Mostly everyone else is concerned with what they are drinking to worry about what you are drinking (usually why I never recommend people to announce ‘they are not drinking alcohol tonight’ as it was probably likely no one would have noticed anyway. I often take a pineapple and coconut smoothie or an equally delicious smoothie – usually my husband will choose to have some of mine rather than alcohol instead. I pack my smoothie in a cold flask so it doesn’t need to be refrigerated and at a party where it is ‘help yourself’ to drinks I just discretely pour my drink into a cup like everyone else’s. In a situation where you are at a dinner party, perhaps make enough for everyone to try. Also green smoothies are a great conversation starter!
  • Dinner Time! When I am asked to a friends house for dinner, I never assume they know what kind of food I like to eat, so rather than be ‘that person’ who can’t eat this or can’t eat that, I actually make my own dinner (enough for a full meal size) plus extra for everyone else to sample. I take it along, and if I am lucky then the host has prepared something for me, and I have contributed something healthy and delicious as well. Usually I pick a show stopper – something that will really impress people so it encourages them to try it and I’ve always taken home empty dishes!
  • Going out to dinner? If you know where you are going ahead of time, call up the restaurant for a copy of their menu or check them out online. Most restaurants have vegetarian dishes than can be easily modified – think salad minus the cheese, or even ask to speak to the chef and let them know your requirements to see if they can come up with something to suit you prior to arriving. I’ve been known to take a ripe avocado in my bag to bulk out my meal if the options have been poorly. If you cannot prepare ahead of time by calling ahead, or it’s a spontaneous dinner plan, think of ordering 2 or 3 appetiser size meals if there are no or minimal options in the main meal section. Don’t be afraid to speak to your server about your requirements (you can use the ‘I’m allergic to these foods…will help). I have a friend who carries a business card size card with their food requirements for the server to give to the chef, good idea!
  • Relax your rules: sometimes it’s just not going to be easy to get the exact meal you require due to the fact you are in a social environment that is a little challenging. Don’t stress out, make the most of your situation, hopefully you’ll have a lara bar or some trail mix in your bag to get you by, until you can have your next meal as you want! Try and enjoy the moment for what it is, it’s about being with friends and loved ones, and if you happen to slip up, you can get right back on track when you get home!

Do you have any other suggestions?

8 comments on “Staying Raw in Social Situations

  1. Thanks, beautiful post. It reminds me that sometimes we vegans, either raw or not, can become a bit too cumbersome for "society", and losing up a bit when the occasion calls is not a bad thing at all.

  2. Nice summary. I'm familiar with many of the ideas, but you did a great job of summing it all up and putting it all together. It was a nice refresher for me, a good reminder. As a high raw vegan, who also has celiac, the socializing and eating out can be very challenging. I think the main thing I've learned is to focus on the company I'm with as being the treat, as the food I have available in restaurants almost never is. Thanks for the review :) .

  3. Hi Robyn,

    Great tips for the holidays – and virtually any social setting. I can understand and empathize with the need to pre-plan and prepare for the inevitable edible challenges that you and others encounter at customary holiday events.

    I have a reflexology practice and my interest in raw food is as a result of my clients' curiosity about raw food as a source of health and healing. Additionally, my daughter has adopted the raw food lifestyle and feels much better for doing so. She also thinks more clearly. So, I thought it would be beneficial – for everyone involved – if I became more educated.

    I've forwarded your website URL to her and I have no doubt she will absolutely LOVE your high-energy spirit and writing style. She has been wanting to connect with other "like-minded" individuals and it seemed your site might be a good place for her to visit.

    Thanks for the great resource!

    Wayne Nelson
    Redmond Reflexology

    • Hi Wayne! Thank you for taking the time to comment here and your beautiful words. I hope your daughter does stop by tells me what she thinks. And you are right, these tips could apply to even the non raw foodist too. Thanks for stopping by!

  4. Nice article. I also like taking a more relaxed approach in social situations. There's no point sticking rigidly to a diet if it is going to cause you stress because this goes against our ability to create health.

    Cheating in an intelligent way can actually be good for us :)

    I also frequently will check a menu of a restaurant ahead of time to see if it is possible to put together a satisfying meal. I'm not shy about ordering off the menu to make sure I can avoid things I'd rather not consume like dairy, as well as mixing and matching from items in different dishes.

    And I might order a double portion of a salad or two different salads to make sure I am getting enough bulk.

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